In Memoriam

Today was my grandmother's birthday. She passed away two years ago, yet it feels so fresh. Today's entry is dedicated to her, so here is a little something she wrote. She remains in the forefront of my mind and probably always will in some form or another; every time I write, I think of her and how I wish she could read my work and tell me what she thinks.

To think she wrote this about my dad and uncle makes her life lesson even dearer to my heart.

The Most Important Lesson I've Learned in my Life
By Maurine Davis

The most important lesson I’ve learned in my life is to love each and every day as if it was the last day I'd have on this earth.

My husband and I lived on the second floor of my in-laws' frame house. I had six children at this particular time and was expecting twins. I was always anemic along with very low blood pressure and this created a grave problem. All the other expecting mothers in the group gained some weight, while I constantly lost weight. I began to look like a broomstick with an old fashioned #2 tin tub attached in the middle. Every time I came down the stairs, my mother-in-law would almost have a heart attack. She thought I would fall over on my face and thus cause a catastrophe.

To make bad matters worse, my blood count dropped so low they almost couldn't take a count. To keep a closer check on the problem, I had to go to the hospital every other day. This really became a chase. I would go by myself but had to call home for someone to come and pick me up. To add to my problems, the doctors told me they didn't see how I was going to make it.

At this point, I began to reflect back upon my life so far. I hadn't done anything so far to speak of, hadn't been anywhere or seen too much. It all seemed so blank. However, I had only one hope and that was the Almighty God. If he would see fit to let me live to see my children grow up, I would be forever grateful. And in case he didn't, I asked for my uncle and his wife to take all of my children, raise them, and keep them all together.

So the twins were born! I didn't die and I named that hereafter I would love each and every day to the absolute fullest, for tomorrow may never come.

So true. She was one of the busiest women I knew who never had enough hours in her day. My grandmother lived her life to the fullest and traveled the world; she was making travel plans before he died. Maurine Davis was truly an exemplary woman, and I can only dream to follow her lead.

Introducing "Ghetto Fabulous"

Ghetto Fabulous Cartoon

When I first saw this headline, the tiny hairs on my arms automatically began to raise. Then I read further and calmed down slightly. I received this bulletin a while back from iZania about an African, now American, named Manny Otiko, who has written a satirical comic strip exposing the idiosyncrasies he's observed in the African and African-American communities. I am always for the pointing out the silly things in our society and trying to make light of them while at the same time bringing them to light. If we take a closer look at our actions (as a whole, of course), I think we will realize some the stupid things we do and hence, discontinue some of them and eventually all. Initially, we never like it when someone holds a mirror to our flaws, but ultimately, with an open mind, we begin to appreciate the gesture.

Manny Otiko, creator of the urban satire Ghetto Fabulous is a firm believer in the old adage truth is stranger than fiction. Otiko, who created the comic strip which runs in several newspapers across the nation, now offers his creation to the iZania audience. The cartoon will run in the iZania Newsletter and on the home page.

Apart from commenting on hip hop culture and current events, the comic strip also deals with edgy subjects such as "“black names,"” tensions between African Americans and African immigrants, and racial profiling.

Otiko was raised in Britain and Nigeria before moving to the United States in the early 1990s. He says that being an outsider helps as a writer. "“When you grow up the way I did, you are constantly looking from the outside in,"” he said. "“You learn to analyze cultures and point out their flaws and contradictions. It makes you an excellent commentator."

Ghetto Fabulous is the brainchild of Manny and his brother Chris. They launched the strip about two years ago after conceiving the idea during a cross-country road trip to California. The comic strip has been published in The LA Sentinel, the African Independent, Our Weekly (Los Angeles), Westside Story, (San Bernardino, Calif.,) City News Ohio, The Washington Afro Am, The Tennessee Tribune, The Pensacola Voice and The Riverside Press Enterprise. Ghetto Fabulous is also featured in "“The Melting Pot of Black Humor,"” a compilation of humor from African, African American, and Afro-Caribbean writers.

"”Ghetto Fabulous started out as a satire on life in urban America," Otiko said. "“I commented on absurdities such as rappers who get million-dollar contracts in jail and grown men who live at home with their moms but drive $50,000 SUVs. But some of the more recent cartoons have veered into political commentary. If you watch the news and keep up with politics some of these jokes literally write themselves,"” he said.

Below, we will introduce you to some of the characters:

1,000 Voltt: (famous rapper who survived electrocution) He has a lightening bolt tattooed below his left eye; Corporate America loves him.

Chief Adedas: hard working Nigerian immigrant who works as a telemarketer and cab driver (at the same time): drives cab in bad neighborhood wearing a bulletproof vest and helmet; also has African magical charms for double protection. He is called Adedas because of the three tribal marks on his cheeks; was a doctor in his country and has three wives, and several family members to support.

Latrell Jackson: Part-time drug dealer, dog breeder, security guard, big-screen TV owner, who lives in mom's basement and dreams of "“making it big" in something; obsessed with Don Ravioli attire, and even has a gold tooth with the "“DR"” logo etched in it.

Trent Bagwell IV: a.k.a. T-Bag. White hip hop fan; yuppie by day, hip hopper by night.

Sharon (pronounced Sharone, not Sharon) Edwards: strong black woman. She is an over-worked public defender who'’s number one client is Latrell Jackson. Her husband looks like John Lennon/Jesus Christ with a head band, and is stuck in the 60s.

A Preacher ex-con who became born again in jail; still fighting the devils temptations: booze and women.

Lacreatia St. James: the single mom cashier who dreams of driving a Lexus. She has two kids, Shaqkobe and Klamideeya; grandma is from Jamaica.

Sports mad Dad (Jerome Jordan): wants his six-month old (Lyon Jordan) to be the next Michael Jordan/Tiger Woods/ Venus Williams of snowboarding/skiing.

I'm curious to see if this comic strip will catch on in wider circles...

Bleeding

Woohoo!

The New York Review has posted one of my poems on their website: newyorkreview.org . It's called "Bleeding." I can't believe it. They sent me a nice note and everything.

OK, I'm finished. I just wanted to brag a little. In the meantime, check out the site and look at my poem. Just click here.

Million Father March

Always the advocate of parents stepping up to the plate and actually raising their children, rather than passing them off to teachers and other people not in charge of rearing them full time, I was happy to come across this bulletin this morning and had to share it with everyone. Yay for the fathers who won't have the adjective "deadbeat" associated with them. Just remember, we need the number to continue to grow!

Below are excerpts from the press conference on August 30, 2006, ahead of the opening of Chicago Public Schools on September 5, 2006

For the second year, the funding for this national program is provided by a grant from the Schott Foundation on Public Education. Please see their work on high school graduation rates for Black male students in your packets.

For the first year of the Million Father March, we were in 25 cities, and we estimated about 35,000 to 40,000 men took their children to school across the country. Last year, the second year of the March, we were in 83 cities, including Auckland, New Zealand, and we estimated about 200,000 men took their children to school. This year to date, we are in 123 cities including London, England, and Tamale, Ghana, and we expect more than 350,000 men across the world, through this program, to take their children to school as we move towards the million father figure.

The honorary Chairmen for the March this year are Chicago Mayor Richard M. Daley, Illinois Senate President Emil Jones, Jr., and Chicago Public Schools CEO Arne Duncan.

What if I told you that I knew of a proven way to get students to learn more, faster, and better? A way to help children get higher test scores, higher grade-point averages, better attendance, and a way to make them more likely to graduate from high school and to attend college? Many of you would say "What has Phillip been drinking before 12:00 noon? This sounds too good to be true."

And then if I went on to tell you that I know of a way to reduce discipline problems, suspensions and expulsion rates, to decrease dropout rates, to reduce violent behaviors in school and at home, to lessen the use of alcohol and illegal drugs by students, and to have fewer students engage in teen-age sex. You would want to know, wouldn't you?

Well I do have a solution. I do have an answer to these overwhelming problems in our schools and our society. It is simply getting men substantially involved in the educational and social developmental lives of their children.

And so today, we launch and celebrate the Million Father March 2006. Not men marching to Washington D.C., not men marching to our state capital, not men marching to city hall, but men marching to their neighborhood schools with children. And by doing so, these men will be marching into the hearts, minds, and spirits of their children and they will make an impact on these young people for the rest of their lives.

To this end, our volunteers and staff have gone door-to-door in the Dearborn and Ickes Public Housing Communities here in Chicago to remind fathers--and all parents -- to take their children to school on the first day, Tuesday, September 5, 2006. We have passed out flyers around the city at bus stops and train stops, at barber shops and beauty shops, and at grocery stores, night clubs, basketball courts, churches, and parks.

We have been on radio shows and television shows, and we have had great printed press on this event nationwide. In Chicago, there is only one thing left for fathers to do--show up at schools to support all of our children on this first fall day.

On Tuesday, September 5, 2005, we are hoping for 100% attendance at every Chicago Public School and we want an army of strong positive men at every school because it will:

* jumpstart the academic learning for most

* generate much needed revenues for the schools

* connect men to children in a way that will improve our children's lives and make the world in which we live a better place.

So on the first day of school, we want men and women of all races, Asian, White, Latino, Native American, as well as African American, to be at a school on the first day and to take a child to school on the first day. Our motto for the Million Father March in America and around the world is: Any Man, Any Child. Any School! The Million Father March won't end on September 5. After that, we are working on year-round programs to flood schools with strong, talented, giving men who want to make a difference in the lives of children as tutors, mentors, coaches and volunteers.

I especially want to thank the staff of The Black Star Project who manages the great programs of The Black Star Project such as the Toyota/Black Star Parent University, The Student Motivation Program, The Silas Purnell Destination College Program, and Men In Schools Program. They are Eleanor Perrone, Marques Williams, Briana Nichols, Catherine Jackson, Marcus Mundy, Abel Henry, Ivory Harris. And of course, I want to thank our fantastic Director of Operations who makes Black Star go, Kirsten Rokke.

Thank you for this time.

For more information about the Million Father March
or the programs of the Black Star Project, please call
312/842-3527, visit www.blackstarproject.org , or www.millionfathermarch.org

We all need to do our part in raising our future leaders. Moms, dads, grandparents, aunts, uncles, godparents, family friends: TAKE AN INTEREST IN YOUR LITTLE LOVED ONES!!!